Warning: This post may make you go “hmm”, possibly offend, or enlighten you on my thoughts for this 2013 year. It may or may not be intended, but let’s get into it anyway.
When we were kids, our parents taught us that when you do something wrong, you need to say “I’m sorry”. If you really mean it, you then say “I apologize” insert superficial reason why, and (
expect) hope for forgiveness. However, this 2013 year I realized that the magical words of “I’m sorry” were starting to become stale, and I became immune by those who used them to cover their embarrassing public faux paus that we the Black people are supposed to forgive, forget, and allow them to live on with their merry lives. I, however, may be forgiving, but not forgetful and your sorry is nothing but a cover up for what you actually think and/or your ignorance. Some have covered it up as being funny, or coy or “I didn’t know” blah blah blah nonsense that makes them seem naive. The “sorry” is the after affect after realizing that sh*t hit the fan, and they need to escape the Twitter lashings and blogosphere ripping them to shreds.
This year my box of “sorry” has overflowed and might be obsolete if I’m not too sure. Looking at 2013 from February to now I think it has contributed to my obsolete box, ah well.
To start off, in February of this year we had The Onion for faux pas number one:
If you had the pleasure of seeing Beasts of the Southern Wild you saw the breakout 5 year old that was the beacon of said film and made it what it was. Being the youngest nominee for an Oscar, Quevenzhane Wallis, alongside her mom with her puppy purse and shirley temple curls, extra hairspray for crunch, was ready to figure out if she had won an Oscar title. It wasn’t until The Onion’s twitter account tweeted something in 140 characters or less that made me side-eye the publication and get me to thinking who would talk about a nine-year-old:
"Everyone else seems afraid to say it, but that Quvenzhané Wallis seems kind of a cunt, right? #oscars2013"
Now, I’m not too sure of the date, but when did we start calling kids, ones who hadn’t reached double digits yet, cunts. I was quite confused when I saw the tweet in real time, and watched as the internets went a blaze. Needless to say, they wrote a
fake nice apology to post on their website for the tweet:
On behalf of The Onion, I offer my personal apology to Quvenzhané Wallis and the Academy of Motion Picture Arts and Sciences for the tweet that was circulated last night during the Oscars. It was crude and offensive—not to mention inconsistent with The Onion’s commitment to parody and satire, however biting.
No person should be subjected to such a senseless, humorless comment masquerading as satire.
The tweet was taken down within an hour of publication. We have instituted new and tighter Twitter procedures to ensure that this kind of mistake does not occur again.
In addition, we are taking immediate steps to discipline those individuals responsible.
Miss Wallis, you are young and talented and deserve better. All of us at The Onion are deeply sorry.
We the Black people are confused as to what we are supposed to believe, what are “Sorrys’” for? Does anyone know? *searches for answer*
In October of this year we then had Carlotte Ferlito
16-year-old African-American gymnast, Simone Biles, became the first Black woman to win a world all-around title. When she took home the bronze title in Antwerp, Belgium Italian gymnast Carlotte Ferlito stated that, “[she] told (teammate Vanessa Ferrari) that next time we should also paint our skin black so then we can win, too.”
Next question: Since when did affirmative action lead to being good in a gymnastic routine? Do we get preferential treatment by the judges? Whatever it is I might be a bit confused because I don’t remember sports like gymnastics being preferential for the deeper melanin, but I digress.
Either way here was her
superficial genuine “I didn’t know” response she put on her Twitter account:
“I want to apologize with the Americans girls. I didn’t want to sound rude or racist. I love Simone and I’m a huge fan of USA gymnastics.” “I’ve made a mistake, I’m not perfect … I didn’t think about what I was saying. I’m just a human. I’m so so sorry.”
The ol “I’m just a human” I knew, but slipped and said something offensive…I’m sorry. Yea, I too am sorry I don’t have time for it.
On to the next…
In November of this year we also had Ms. Julianne Hough
Earlier in the year there was a tweet that I had sent out that detailed what one should do when they want to know whether or not they should dress up in Blackface. It looked something like this actually:
Sadly, that tweet was not seen nor did anyone in Ms. Hough’s circle of friends tell her that wearing blackface to a public holiday party with paparrazi and possibly other Black people was okay. However, she too was taught as a child that if you scream appreciation/ I didn’t mean it along with a sorry, then, you know, it’s okay.
Here was Ms. Hough’s “but I love Black people” response:
"I am a huge fan of the show Orange Is the New Black, actress Uzo Aduba, and the character she has created.”"It certainly was never my intention to be disrespectful or demeaning to anyone in any way. I realize my costume hurt and offended people and I truly apologize."
The road to hell is paved with good intentions, and if we’re saying sorry to that then we’re almost at the door. I also wonder if she realized that her costume was offensive before or after it sparked an outrage amongst the masses.
Last for this evening we had the most recent and that was from Ms. Justine Sacco
I think a retweet of a Twitter follower of mine wrote, “Justine Sacco is probably the only person who could lose her job in 12 words”. Ironically, she is a PR person! She is the queen of apologies for the public faux pas, hell, she probably even wrote a few herself. However, that did not give her career immunity from the BS of a tweet she sent before heading back to South Africa. Just in case you didn’t see her tweet, here is a nice screen shot before her account was deleted:
Now, I may have only taken 9th grade health, and have a few friends who are HIV/AIDS awareness teachers, but I’m pretty sure simply visiting a [continent] is not one of the ways in which you contract AIDS. Actually, I’m not even going to decipher what her tweet meant, but she for sure thought it was clever. Luckily, she too understood what public embarrassment meant, and the power of sorry:
In a written statement Sacco apologized “for being insensitive to this crisis — which does not discriminate by race, gender or sexual orientation, but which terrifies us all uniformly — and to the millions of people living with the virus, I am ashamed.”
She has had a history of writing crude things onto her account which had not been reprimanded before and probably thought she was not going to get fired for it. However, she was wrong. She landed, and miraculously her twitter account was deleted and she was fired. I’m not sure who had the worst firing, her or Lane Kiffin (I think getting kicked off the team bus wins) she at least landed in a vacation spot.
It is safe to say that I think these words are BS. I am immune to it, and I am so sorry that I am not here for apologies and white women’s tears for doing what they thought was okay. Unlike Megan Kelly’s Santa Claus, microagressions [are real], racism [is real], and ignorance [is real]. I want to note that your sorrys mean nothing, it’s like being in a relationship where your significant other cheats on you and says sorry each time and you take them back. The sorry is there, but the actions still persist. Sadly, the actions are still persisting, and every sorry that is given I wish I could bake into a pie that even Minny would add along with her “special ingredient” for the Miss Hilly’s of the world to eat. (Re: The Help).
I could continue writing about these incidents, but I neither have the time or the energy to write about why I am becoming immune to sorrys’ after public displays of ignorance, racism or disrespect. I want to be the change that I wish to see, but the first thing I must do is acknowledge that ignorance won’t be stood for anymore.
Once you realize that most people in college are full of shit your life will improve significantly
“Don’t you know that slavery was outlawed?”
“No,” the guard said, “you’re wrong. Slavery was outlawed with the exception of prisons. Slavery is legal in prisons.”
I looked it up and sure enough, she was right. The Thirteenth Amendment to the Constitution says:
“Neither slavery nor involuntary servitude, except as a punishment for crime whereof the party shall have been duly convicted, shall exist within the United States, or any place subject to their jurisdiction.”
Well, that explained a lot of things. That explained why jails and prisons all over the country are filled to the brim with Black and Third World people, why so many Black people can’t find a job on the streets and are forced to survive the best way they know how. Once you’re in prison, there are plenty of jobs, and, if you don’t want to work, they beat you up and throw you in a hole. If every state had to pay workers to do the jobs prisoners are forced to do, the salaries would amount to billions… Prisons are a profitable business. They are a way of legally perpetuating slavery. In every state more and more prisons are being built and even more are on the drawing board. Who are they for? They certainly aren’t planning to put white people in them. Prisons are part of this government’s genocidal war against Black and Third World people.